The City

I'm off to the City (as in the city of SATC) with two super fun ladies. Totally stoked and absolutely ready to rock it out. Hopefully yours truly will return with many tales of adventures from the City.

Yes, I did pack my stretching pants :P

Guys - these are the places you should go

Hey Single Guys

If you are interested in meeting lots of fun-loving and fit girls, these are the places you should go:

1) Yoga classes - girls are zen-out and totally friendly
2) Capoeira - girls who are open to experiencing different world culture
3) Salsa dance classes - girls with rhythm (& you know what they say about girls who can dance)

That's my tip of the day for guys. Now go and explore!

XOXO
BB

Bachelor

It's been years since I last watched an episode of the tv dating show, the Bachelor. Tonight I caught the last 15 minutes of the show and disappointedly Mr. Bachelor dumped fellow Vancouverite Jillian (the reason I tuned into the show tonight). The reason he gave her was that she has an amazing life of her own? Huh? So, a girl who knows how to have an amazing life without a man is deemed undesirable, Mr. Bachelor? Wow - dude, you totally don't deserve the fine ladies from Vancouver then.

Vancouver is known to have a breed of fine ladies who are fully capable of living fun-filled amazing lives of their own - with or without guys because there is a serious shortage of eligible single men in this city. So dear single eligible men of the world, please come to Vancouver if you want to meet some fine young ladies.

Just not that into you

Boy danced the night away with Girl at the club to the crooning of Barry White. Boy kissed Girl at the end of the night. But Boy didn't give Girl his phone number - therefore it was concluded that Boy was just not that into Girl. Girl ended kiss abruptly and ran away from Boy (so that she didn't miss her ride home) - therefore it was concluded that Girl was just not that into Boy.

There you go - Boy and Girl just wanted to have a little PG fun dancing away that night (nothing more).

V-day

Happy Valentine's Day!

Yours truly has no special romantic interest to shower love on - so, to everyone out there, much love from me to you! (Now pay it forward...maybe it'll makes its way back to me)

XOXO
BB

Seriously did those words just pour out from me? Or was that courtesy of all those different shooters from last night?

Cheat

SG: I don't understand why people here are so critical of those who cheat. People in Asia do it all the time. I don't see anything wrong with it.

BB: Umm....I guess my puritan beliefs are seriously out of date. I don't mean to be judgmental but I just don't think hurtful actions like cheating is of any good or benefit to anyone.

Is my belief that cheating is hurtful really that out-of-date? Am I too naive to still want to have faith in that people will do the right thing?

Is it just a number?

Pre checking out Jesus of Madonna's boytoy fame

The minimum age of the guy one should date is divide your age by two plus seven.

Post checking out Jesus of Madonna's boytoy fame

The minimum age of the guy one should date is of the legal age.

Bendy

During a Friday afternoon chat at work:

BB: There was a new guy at my yoga class yesterday. He was kinda cute.
SO: Did you do the gaze & smile?
BB: No, I'm too shy.
SO: Well, next time cute guy comes to class, pull up your mat next to his and start stretching.
BB: Seriously?
SO: Yes, stretching works every time at my gym - even with the gay men. Let me show you.
SO proceeded to demonstrate this "yoga" move which guarantees success.
BB: I have never done that pose in yoga. It looks more burlesque.
SO: Trust me, this works - try it next time at your gym.

Dear guys - If you see me bust into spontaneous stretching maneuver, don't fret. It's just that I may be a little into you. (Hmm...or maybe you would fret).

Uno

A big flashing neon sign that a guy is a commitment-phobe maybe the fact that he only had one pillow on his bed. True story as experienced by yours truly.
And I thought I have commitment issues...geez.

Dream away

For the past weeks, I have been blessed with dreams of situations with various nice and hot guys. Understandably it was hard to wake myself up from such sweet dreams to drag myself to work. Excitedly thinking that these dreams may be premonition of very good things to come in terms of guys, I consulted the dream dictionary and was disappointed to learn that dreams about guys mean that I am embracing the yang (the masculine side) of me. Sigh!

Viva Las Vegas

Congratulations to my dear friend, Miss Teacher (or now Mrs. Teacher) , who got hitched in Las Vegas last weekend. Mrs and Mr Teacher, both from the same area, met each other in far far away land on a teaching assignment. They fell in love and travelled from places to places teaching young children. Two years after meeting in far far away land, they got married. Wishing them happily ever after.

Way to simulate a daycare

A 33-year-old single mother in California of six children recently gave birth to octoplets, giving her a grand total of fourteen children. Yikes!

Satcitananda

The grass is no greener on the other side of the fence; the grass is of green perfection right where I stand.
Satcitananda - sanskrit for experiencing bliss in your reality (my version of sanskrit translation).

Integrity

Can't we bring integrity back into style? I think (in my humble personal opinion) there is a serious lack of integrity amongst too many guys out there in the dating world. Too many guys are guilty of dating multiple girls at the same time. Yes, I heard of the "Caveman" theory and I do agree with most part of it. However, guys - you are no ape, you are an evolved human. Plus, I have not received the memo about possible human extinction in the very near future - so, you can slow down that "procreation" action that you're so keen on.

Seriously, I thought the days of collecting baseball/hockey cards are just for boys. Now that you're grown, such hobby does not translate into collecting women. Plus, have you not learned from the recent stock market crash about the ramification of greed? Greed may earn you short-term gain but will get you nowhere in the long run.

Last but not least, if you're a man of integrity (and single), I would love to meet you. Perhaps, you can help restore my faith.

p.s. Dear boys, I apologize for the slight bashing. Just needed to rant about those serious offenders.

Tip of the day - remembering dates

SO's new man, Mr. Audi, has a neat trick for making it easy to remember significant dates. He took her out on their first date on new year's day. He recently planted his first kiss on her on one of the most significant day in modern history, Obama's inauguration day. He purposedly timed the kiss on that day - so that he shall never forget a significant event on a significant day. How clever!

Yes, we can!

A shout-out to the true inspiration, Mr. President Obama and of course First Lady Michelle. Everytime I watch the duo on tv, they put a smile on my face. I enjoy the dynamics between them. Mr. President is cool in my books because he often acknowledged the strength and support of his wife - plus I like how she put him in his place too and he chuckled about it.

Congratulations to the ultimate "it" couple! Wishing you the very best.

Love advice

Since the new year, concerned folks have been offering me their advices on finding romance. The list so fars consist of the following:

1) Set the mood/intention
- Read romance novels
- Watch romantic movies
- Wear red especially undergarments [waiting for post V-sale to stock up]
- Wear rose quartz after either washing it under full moon or alternatively placed in freezer overnight
- Wear a red string around the hips (if not wearing red garments or undergarments)
- Replace artwork of single object with artwork featuring couples or beautiful things (in pairs)

2) Go
- To remote mining town in Australia where there is a serious shortage of women
- To Alaska (land of Sarah Palin - yikes!)
- To Las Vegas (to catch a whale?)
- To a particular diner in Abbotsford - where the construction crew hangs out
- To certain local grocery stores at certain time

3) Do
- Join a male-oriented activity group - e.g. running club [I would be literally chasing men then because for the life of me, I can't run fast]
- Participate in a yoga retreat [apparently this is where I will find my true love in the form of a man - not just my true love in the form of yoga]
- Volunteer with political endeavours - go Red!
- Attend professional networking events
- Do sports - manly ones not the girly ones that I usually go for
- Chat to neighbours? [maybe not in my neighbourhood]
- Take a class (not a girly one - of course)

I will attempt the above list (at least the ones that are feasible) and shall report on the results accordingly.

Poop

I must be very strange to find pleasure in poop conversation.

I once had a whole conversation about colonic over a dinner date and the date actually turned out to be one of the better dates that I had been on.

When I was still attending Mr. Asthanga's yoga classes, we would spend time after class having pleasant conversation about cow dung and the poop system. I still have a crush on Mr. Asthanga.

Last night, I had a funny conversation about how the toilet flushes with a Kiwi - whom I don't even know.

Hmm - I guess I am just comfortable talking about poop.

Un-veiling

I have been writing about other people's business for more than a month now and I have not shared any of my own sordid tale (not fair, right?). I am a big fan of realness and rawness in people and I do always keep a defensive veil over mine. So, with this post, I am unveiling my own story.

About two years ago, the guy that I adored (note the past tense) told me one day that we were not compatible (this was after an extended period of hanging out). Of course, I was devastated. I went through the laundry list of "not good enough" in my head - not pretty enough, not smart enough, not successful enough, my hair was not straight enough, etc. Trust me, the list that went through my head over and over again was long. At that time, I even felt as if I was unworthy for the air that I breathed (yes, not only was I neurotic, I was dramatic too but only in the inside). Having lost faith in mankind (due to those three words - we weren't compatible), I started spending lots of time at the yoga studio where hours of yoga practice and inspirational words of many kind teachers helped me celebrate my own divinity as I do today. Sometimes we do have to go through the dark and stormy to get to the happy and sunny place.

[I wish I could say that I have fully healed; I am for most times but the odd times, those insecurities do still creep up.]

Six degree of romance

A few years ago, I met Ninja (a guy on a work holiday visa from Japan) at my capoeira class. He was a cool capoeira friend. Years later, I introduced Ninja (who had since moved back to Japan) to Curly Sue - who at that time was moving to Japan to teach English. I just heard from CS that Ninja has fallen for one of her friends whom she recently introduced to Ninja. Aww - I would like to think I have a part in connecting those romance dots (& the rule of karma will in turn bring love karma to me now).